We’ve heard a lot about prostitutes lately. What with the recent hunt for a serial killer in Ipswich, England, and now with Pickton‘s trial starting in BC, we’re certainly going to hear a lot more about them.
Theres one thing that I’ve always puzzled over, as a feminist and as a sexual being: is prostitution a form of exploitation? Is a woman who accepts money for sex just another victim of our male-dominated society? Or is the world’s “oldest profession” just another way for a business-savvy woman to make a quick buck?
First, let me say there’s no question that prostitution should be fully legal, and that it needs to be taken out of the shadows and into the sunlight. Sex workers should not have to live in fear of their clients or of their pimps (indeed, there should be no pimps at all). The exchange of money for sex is clearly never going to go away, and we ought learn how to deal with it, before thirty other women disappear from Vancouvers east side.
But still the question begs to be asked: is there something inherently wrong with prostitution?
If youd asked me this question when I was 14, I would have undoubtedly said yes, it is wrong: look at the living conditions of most prostitutes, this is a life none of us would want for our sisters and daughters. The Johns maintain their anonymity, while the whores endure lives of shame, poverty and violence. If men and women were truly equal, nobody would ever pay for sex - it would always be a mutual experience of pleasure and joy, not a commodity to be bought and sold.
Thats what I would have said at 14. Now, Im not so sure. I think that there are always going to be men that none of us feel like sleeping with (especially in the worlds most populous country, China, where they expect to have an excess of 30 million men by 2020).
So what do those men do? Spend their lives without ever getting laid? Take their frustrations out through assault?
Isnt it better for those men to find comfort in the arms of a professional who wont judge them, shame them, or expose them? And isnt it better for the rest of us that we dont have to deal with those men? In fact, shouldnt women everywhere be grateful to prostitutes for taking on the responsibility of sleeping with the most undesirable men?
Paulo Coelho explored some of these issues in Eleven Minutes, a novel about a Brazilian girl who finds that her best option to save for her future is to sell her body. Not only does she find it highly lucrative, she also considers the idea that prostitution can be honourable a profession that provides spiritual healing and physical comfort to those in need. When I read this novel I thought, maybe we should view prostitutes just as we view nurses and doctors: somebody who does a messy job for the public good.
Whatever your opinion, I think we can all agree that the western world has done a pretty shitty job of accepting and incorporating prostitutes into society. Serial killers have always been drawn to prostitutes because they are easy prey: invisible to most people, a sex worker can go missing for months, years even, before the police notice or care.
Which is why I was so thrilled to see this story about prostitutes in Rio de Janeiro hosting their own catwalk show during the citys star-studded fashion week.
This rocks on so many different levels. It rocks because the women were not ashamed to reveal their identities in public. It rocks because the organizers point out how many mainstream artists, from Picasso to Madonna, have been inspired by the whore aesthetic. It rocks because they threw condoms to the audience.
Most of all though, I think this fashion show rocks because it reminds us that selling your body for sex is nothing to be ashamed of. Prostitutes have every reason to hold their heads high and strut their stuff.


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I think the question of inherent wrongness is a little sticky, and winds up being counter-productive - most things are right or wrong based on their context. I am hard pressed to think of a single thing that I could judge as wrong, without knowing the cultural, political, economic (etc...) context that it exists in.
I disagree that sex work should be made legal, just for the sake of some loveless dopes who can't get any lovin'...That pretty much reverts to the stereotype of men being dawgs drooling over women, while women are prim little girls who only have sex to give in to those ravenous boys. Isn't the ratio of women to men balanced on the whole?
Look at it this way, if a country had an excess of 30 million women, would you advocate sending droves of male sex workers to the streets to satisfy them?
I think we shouldn't imagine all sex workers as trapped, powerless and guileless - there are lots of sex workers who are sex workers because they want to be. As for the ones who are forced to do it by addiction or the Patriarchy, the state has failed them - failed to protect them, failed to respect them, and failed them at countless times in their lives leading up to the street - and as feminists I think we should be advocating for them.
Have you ever checked out $pread magazine?
http://www.spreadmagazine.org/
Posted by Thea
January 26, 2007, 10:18 AM
I've known a few women over the years who have done sex work to supplement their income - either as escorts, strippers, or on internet porn. I realize these outlets are light-years away from streetwalking, which has many more inherent dangers to it. Nevertheless, it's worth pointing out that none of these women felt used or exploited in their experience; if anything, they seemed to feel the exploitation took place on the side of the companies that charge for these services, as in "All I have to do is show my bare titties and people will cough up mad cash for it? Sweet!" There has been an impressive rise lately of sex workers speaking and standing up for themselves, as indicated by publications like $pread and groups like Stella, the union/support network created by and for prostitutes. I find myself tending to agree with Thea - in an ideal world, would sex work exist? Well, I can't possibly imagine what an ideal world would look like, nor do I see much point in dwelling on it too much. Whatever the case, it should come as no surprise that I advocate whatever it takes to give women access to the services, networks, and commodities they need, regardless of how they or we feel about what they do for a living.
Posted by Anna
January 26, 2007, 4:29 PM
As a sex worker and one of the plaintiffs on a lawsuit against the Canadian federal governmenat over it's patriarchal laws that criminalizes a women's sexuality, I am all in favour of the decriminalization of prostitution (you said legalization which all sex worker organizations around the world are against -- we want it decriminalied), as well as a strong believer that prostitution is a legitimate form of labour. I think as feminists we need understand that just because one women has a bad experience with prostitution that that doesn't mean another women will have the same.
For info on the lawsuit check out: http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews...
Posted by Wendy
January 26, 2007, 11:35 PM
"So what do those men do? Spend their lives without ever getting laid? Take their frustrations out through assault?"
This is a pretty difficult statement... I don't think that people "require" sex (and I mean: require sex with a partner), that the need builds up and gets "worse" until they do something like assault someone.
That "blue balls" argument is often used as a sympathy-grab for men who sexually assault women, and it's never ok.
But aside from this one little sentence, I really enjoy this blog and your contributions. Thanks for existing!
Posted by Stephanie
March 28, 2007, 2:28 PM
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