Posts by deb singh

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent Part 1

    November 12th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Many months ago I was a “Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant”. I finally got pregnant. My son, Adli is almost 6 months old and this new mom is now a Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent! Check out my 3 part blog series about the baby basics, adventures of being a queer mom, and motherhood as work! READ MORE

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    Stuck in the Middle with You: Tools to Support Your Friends When They Are in Conflict

    October 24th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Have you ever had 2 mutual friends in your life, fighting, arguing or not talking? What did you do? Did you take sides? Did you continue to talk to both of them? Did you ignore the whole situation all together and just not get involved? How did you feel about it? And did you ever get your say? READ MORE

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    Take Back the Night 2014

    October 16th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    This month’s entry is the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape’s speech for this past September’s Take Back the Night (takebackthenightoronto.com) event. This year’s theme was Decolonizing Feminism Globally: From Turtle Island to Palestine. Our intention this year was to make connections between how violence is used by the state, worldwide, in Canada and beyond. Sexual violence, in particular, has been used against Indigenous women across the world as a tool of war and … READ MORE

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    Review: One Kind Word: Women Share Their Abortion Stories

    August 28th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    deb singh reviews this edited feminist volume. Contributors discuss the stigma of accessing an abortion no matter what the year, the province or the circumstance. Women were scared to talk about their abortions for fear of judgment by family, friends, the medical system, and society at large. READ MORE

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    Honoured Femme, Femmes Honoured

    August 14th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    This year, World Pride honoured a group of activist organizers in the city of Toronto’s downtown core called Fierce Femme Organizers. deb singh writes about the importance of this complex identity. READ MORE

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    Review: Elisha Lim’s 100 Crushes

    July 18th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    deb singh talks about Elisha Lim’s 100 Crushes, a compilation of five years of comics that show how identity is a fluid, complex, beautiful process. “Lim,” singh writes, “takes real people from our communities and helps us tell our stories, giving us a context in which to start.” READ MORE

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    Food Guilt: Don’t Gotta Have It!

    May 20th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Food guilt. Feeling guilty about the things I eat, and worrying about weight gain or my looks thereafter. What’s up with food guilt? Why do I carry it around like a handbag? How did it get here? Who put it here and how can I rid myself of it? How do I create a relationship with food that is positive, loving, realistic and healthy? READ MORE

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    A Short Guide to Supporting Each Other with Body Changes

    April 21st, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Since becoming pregnant, I have returned to that part of life where people think it’s okay to make all sorts of comments on my body. Instead of focusing on the negativity of those body comments (which have ranged from weird to downright rude), I decided to put together a short list of ways to big each other up instead of bring each other down. READ MORE

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    Valentine’s Everyday

    March 22nd, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    A friend of mine recently said I could start my own consulting business…a romantic consulting business. I guess she liked some of the ideas her best friend (my partner) told her I had pulled on her in the last year. While I am very into making money by being oh-so-clever, I am also all about the free exchange of ideas and since I don’t believe hetero cisgender dudes are the overwhelming population who read my monthly blog, I think I can share some of the ideas that my friend was so impressed with, with you, for free. I will, however, be charging once I go into business! READ MORE

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    Rob Ford, Kanye West and Torontonians: What’s important?

    December 3rd, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    I realize that there have been many articles and videos circulating about the scandals of the so-called mayor, Rob Ford. This blog will cover only some of the blunders and movie-like dramas of the Toronto stripped-of-his-powers mayor but it will also cover some serious criminal charges that seem to have been brushed under the rug by many Torontonians, in my humble opinion. First off, Rob Ford has had many moments in the press, personal and political … READ MORE

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    Love and Relationships Series: Multiple Dating and Me

    November 8th, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Editor’s note: To get you excited for the upcoming winter issue of Shameless, we are posting a series of blog posts every Friday on the theme of love and relationships. What does love mean? Who are our relationships with? What kinds of love are there? We’d love to hear from you in the comments. If you like what you’re reading, don’t forget to subscribe! Hi. my name is deb and I can be attracted to more than … READ MORE

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    Surprise Entry - Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant, Part 5: Nature is the Bomb

    November 1st, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    So I’m pregnant. Yay! It’s exciting, scary, weird and most definitely overwhelming. I read a lot of books, I talked to a lot of people and even at 18 weeks (about 4 months and 2 weeks), I still really have no idea what I’m in for. Nature is seriously awesome! I am in touch with my body and have always paid attention to my menstrual cycles, changes in my vaginal secretions, moods and even eating habits. … READ MORE

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    Honouring and Reclaiming Self-Determination of Indigenous Peoples - Take Back the Night 2013

    October 1st, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Over the 5 years I have been in leadership of Take Back the Night, I have never experienced the planning committee and the event in the way I did this year. I believe it was the leadership and guidance of Indigenous women and 2 Spirit People who changed the way we do Take Back the Night. I also believe that Take Back the Night changed because settlers weren’t running the show like in the 32 … READ MORE

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    Take Back the Night 2013: Honouring and Reclaiming Self-Determination of Indigenous Peoples

    September 10th, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Take Back the Night 2013 Honouring and Reclaiming Self-Determination of Indigenous Peoples Saturday September 21st, 2013 Central Neighbourhood House (349 Ontario St., Toronto) Community Fair 4pm Rally 6pm March 8pm Read our Statement of Solidarity at takebackthenighttoronto.com Honouring and Reclaiming Self-Determination of Indigenous Peoples This year’s theme speaks to the experiences of Turtle Islands original people and the (sexual) violence Indigenous women and 2-Spirit People still face today as part of the ongoing colonization of this land. We are all responsible for … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant, Part 4: The Last Part (for now)

    September 3rd, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    There’s a lot they don’t tell you about having a baby and this blog is not gonna tell you what that stuff is since I don’t have a baby. What it is gonna give you is some questions I learned I need to ask myself and others recently. I’m the kinda Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant that has always benefited from the company of people who have gone through it before me, whatever “it” … READ MORE

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    Sports series: When you gotta go ...

    August 9th, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Story shared with permission! In an effort to try and get my body ready for pregnancy, this queer brown girl trying to get pregnant took up running about a year and a half ago. A friend of mine, let’s call her Sharon, suggested we register for the Toronto Women’s Run, a charity run that happens every year in East York to raise money for pediatric oncology and research. Sharon and I spent once a week training on … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant, Part 3: Let’s Get Emo(tional) about Trying to Get Pregnant

    August 1st, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Warning: This blog may sound complain-y, crabby or sad. Viewer Discretion is Advised. (Except for those who totally get it) So far, I have tried to get pregnant six times. It’s a weird and hard process. I certainly didn’t know what I bargained for in terms of length of time, money and work that would be required to try and get this queer brown girl pregnant. There are a few things/thoughts/feelings that have made this process challenging … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant, Part 2: The Pre-Conception Rollercoaster!

    July 2nd, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    If you haven’t read part 1 of this series, you can read it here. Part 2 of 4 Now that I have done this a few times, I certainly feel more relaxed about the process in one way, and more anxious about it in another. The first month I inseminated, I freaked out because I had some cervical mucus happening and I thought I had missed my chance. People with menstrual cycles only surge with the lutenizing … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant, Part 1: The Basics

    June 3rd, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    Part 1 of 4 This blog may have scenes that include coarse language, nudity, sexuality, and science jargon. Viewer Discretion is Advised. The last 3 months I have been trying to make a baby grow in my uterus. It’s really not as easy as the movies. Moreover, I have been trying to do this without a penis or person with a penis, as it were. So, you guys all know I’m queer, right? And my partner and I … READ MORE

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    Six Degrees of Inoculation

    May 2nd, 2013     by deb singh     Comments

    When I started at the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape, I was given a benefits package**. My coworkers helped me to use my benefits package, not just for health care but also for self-care. And so my adventure on new ways to care for myself began! Once I got my teeth cleaned, and some of my basic health care needs met, I started to explore my self-care options. I realized I seriously needed a … READ MORE

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