Posts by deb singh

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    The System Isn’t Broken, It Was Built This Way (Part 1)

    April 17th, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    Trigger Warning: Discussions of Rape Culture The Law: Not Here for Survivors When survivors go to report a sexual assault to the police, statistically speaking: the police do nothing. It may be their job – at the very least – to listen to survivors by taking their statements but after that, on the most part, nothing more is done to validate the experience of the survivor. And why would anything be done? The system has proven time and time … READ MORE

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    Sex-Positive Doesn’t Have to be a Dirty Word: Feminists Analyze the Notion Sex-Positivity

    April 7th, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    Please note, this post has been updated since first published as the original version uploaded did not properly display the entire post. So I have a partner, going on 9 years, and I still feel awkward and scared to masturbate in front of her. I know, TMI. But that is exactly my point. In this dominant western culture, we have a problem with openly talking about sexuality, being openly sexual, and women’s racialized and queer sexualities themselves. We … READ MORE

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    Speech for Rally: Ghomeshi Court Action

    March 31st, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    Trigger Warning: Assault and Violence On March 24th, 2016 Jian Ghomeshi was found not guilty on 3 counts of sexual assault and one count of choking, overcoming resistance by Judge William Horkins. Below is the collectively written speech one of our most esteemed counselors read at the evening action that brought together the issues of survivorship and sexual violence and anti-Black racism. Organizers from Black Lives Matter, Ryerson Centre for Women and Trans People, Ryerson Office for … READ MORE

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    How to Learn about Your Culture (When You Don’t Have Family to Teach You)

    March 14th, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    It’s a social experiment but we are making the blog series “Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent” into a column! So get ready for a monthly blog about all things Queer, Brown and Parenting! READ MORE

    CONTENT WARNNG: This blog includes personal information about family violence , domestic violence and child abuse. READ MORE

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    The ‘No’ Comment: TRCC-MWAR Comments to the Media about the Jian Ghomeshi Trial

    February 8th, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    The following contains the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape’s media statements. Trigger Warning for assault and rape READ MORE

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    I Don’t Want No More Babies and Other Taboo Stuff You’re Not Supposed to Say or Think When You’re a

    January 25th, 2016     by deb singh     Comments

    As cisgender mothers, there is a ton of stuff we just plain feel guilty about. It’s all rooted in good old fashioned sexism - part and parcel with how we are supposed to love our children in opposition to loving ourselves and be self sacrificial at all costs and turns. This is impossible. Like it’s physically impossible to care for someone without support or at the very least some time to care for yourself as well. … READ MORE

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    The Conversation…

    December 14th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    It’s a social experiment but we are making the blog series “Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent” into a column! So get ready for a monthly blog about all things Queer, Brown and Parenting! READ MORE

    CONTENT WARNNG: This blog includes personal information about family violence , domestic violence and child abuse. READ MORE

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    It’s a…Person! The Beginnings of the Gender Binary

    November 16th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    When Adli popped out of me the day he was born, the first thing I said was ‘You’re a person’. I was obviously exhausted and slightly delirious but I knew exactly what I said, but not exactly what I meant. It is pretty incredible, a miracle some might say, to have a human develop in your body, a place once occupied only by tissue and blood and have an actual person come out after 40 … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to Be a Parent – Polyamory and Parenting

    October 8th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    It’s a social experiment but we are making the blog series “Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent” into a column! So get ready for a monthly blog about all things Queer, Brown and Parenting! This month’s blog: Polyamory and Parenting. READ MORE

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    35th annual Take Back the Night

    September 17th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    The Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape and Black Lives Matter – Toronto are pleased to announce the 35th annual Take Back the Night happening on Saturday September 26th, 2015 at Scadding Court Community Centre (707 Dundas St. West). This year’s theme is: “All Black Lives Matter: Black Communities Take Back the Night” This year’s theme speaks to the anti-Black racism centering the experiences of Black women, Black queer and trans people along the gender … READ MORE

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    My Past, My Parents, My Pain: How My Own History Affects My Parenting

    September 10th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    It’s a social experiment but we are making the blog series “Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent” into a column! So get ready for a monthly blog about all things Queer, Brown and Parenting! READ MORE

    CONTENT WARNNG: This blog includes personal information about family violence , domestic violence and child abuse. READ MORE

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    Sex and Parenting

    August 13th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    It’s a social experiment but we are making the blog series “Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent” into a column! So get ready for a monthly blog about all things Queer, Brown and Parenting! This month’s blog: Sex and Parenting. READ MORE

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    Gender Division in the Movement

    June 23rd, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    Most recently I read two articles that spoke to the fact that once a movement focuses on one set of victims/survivors of sexual violence, that movement must be excluding the other victims/victims.
 First, Angela Mullins wrote in Metro views on May 26th that she wanted to start a men’s movement. This was because she believed that the movement to end sexual violence and the newest campaign by the province of Ontario ‘It’s Never Okay’ excludes men … READ MORE

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    40 Blogs and a Mule

    May 4th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    Hello dedicated readers! This is my 40th blog entry with Shameless Magazine. Attention must be paid! First, I would like to thank every reader who has ever spent their valuable time reading my entries. I truly appreciate you and thank you for caring what I think about stuff. Second, a major appreciation to Sheila, Julia, Meg and Naz for working with me over the past 40 blogs. I am so grateful for your confidence and for allowing … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent: The Foundation of Love

    April 3rd, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    As a privileged person, I was able to access many resources during my Maternity Leave to learn how to be a better parent. And, I accessed those resources. Like everything in my life, I achieve by learning so it was no surprise that I took full advantage of the City of Toronto’s Public Health departments parenting resources. For one, I started with the online prenatal classes, and, I was able to take 2 more Mom’s groups … READ MORE

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    Bigger Than Tragedy

    March 18th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    TRIGGER WARNING: THIS BLOG CONTAINS INFO ON VIOLENCE AGAINST CHILDREN AND LINKS THAT DESCRIBE VIOLENT ACTS AGAINST CHILDREN. READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent: Motherhood As Work

    February 5th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    Many months ago I was a “Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant”. I finally got pregnant. My son, Adli is almost 8 months old and this new mom is now a Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent! Check out my 3 part blog series about the baby basics, adventures of being a queer mom, and motherhood as work! In thinking about motherhood as work itself, I decided to search ‘Motherhood As Work’ and … READ MORE

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    Leslie Feinberg: Transgender Warrior for Life

    January 7th, 2015     by deb singh     Comments

    As a young femme birthed into queer community in the 2000s, I thought I didn’t need Leslie Feinberg. I came up with the birthing of gender-neutral washrooms, trans men in my community and regular drag king performances at local gay bars (that were gay all week long, not just on Saturday nights). Leslie Feinberg eluded me. I didn’t know hir experience. I didn’t live it either. As a brown femme I had my own Brown Femme … READ MORE

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    Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent: Adventures of Being a Queer Mom Part 2

    December 2nd, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Many months ago I was a “Queer Brown Girl Trying to Get Pregnant”. I finally got pregnant. My son, Adli is almost 7 months old and this new mom is now a Queer Brown Girl Trying to be a Parent! Check out my 3 part blog series about the baby basics, adventures of being a queer mom, and motherhood as work! Many people said to me to get ready cause my life was about to change … READ MORE

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    Art Show Review: Anatomy of a Protest

    November 28th, 2014     by deb singh     Comments

    Art Show Review: Anatomy of a Protest Wendy Coburn Justina M. Barnicke Gallery University of Toronto I recently visited the Justina M. Barnicke Gallery at Hart House, University of Toronto (7 Hart House Circle) and caught a wicked moment in time/art show/herstorical perspective on a very recent and important protest in Toronto history. The art exhibit, Anatomy of a Protest by Wendy Coburn, stars the recent and gone-global protest, the first Slut Walk ever (held in Toronto in … READ MORE

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