Published in the Fall 2012 issue • In web :: D.I.Y.
Self-Care DIY: A How-To Just for You
Community organizer and yoga instructor Kim Crosby give us the much-needed lowdown on self-care.
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Mind: Quieting your mind
Create rituals for yourself: a morning movement in your wheelchair or a walk, writing in your journal for five minutes before bed, a video of yourself speaking in sign language, a long shower. Create intentional periods of time where you can be alone with your thoughts and reflect. Take time to have a digital technology detox. Block websites like Facebook or Tumblr if you need to in order to create a space without distractions.
Part of practicing self-care in community and in our relationships is recognizing that we have pretty bad blueprints of what it means to love each other and support each other and hurt each other. So we need to be invested in healing our hearts.
A lot of experiences can injure us emotionally: breakups with friends and sweeties, families changing or rejecting our gender or sexuality, racist bullying, physical, sexual or verbal abuse. All of these are realities that we face and are often just expected to recover from. This can be particularly difficult if you have a long history of trauma. We all deserve support, healing and care. No one is disposable. Find a place that you can go to in order to talk about your history or present experiences. This might be a confidential phone line, or a website like communityandresistance.tumblr.com that provides support for folks of colour who are survivors. Engage in art to express complicated feelings. Online communities like Tumblr are good places to share your feelings anonymously.
Spirit: Creating sacred space
Depending on your living situation, ways of creating a sacred space will look very different. If you are street-involved, the space you create might come from a few things you can carry with you or even just a poem, in whatever language you speak, that feels right or which you recite quietly to yourself in order to bring magic to your space. Sometimes the only space we can create is in our imagination, and that is an entirely sacred space. If you are in a home, think about an altar where you keep cards, images, flowers, anything that is of value to you and affirms your existence.
Be the change you want to see.
Part of practicing self-care in community and in our relationships is recognizing that we have pretty bad blueprints of what it means to love each other and support each other.